by Phoebe on Dec.23, 2012, under time
My memoir, The Beauty Experiment: how I skipped lipstick, ditched fashion, faced the world without concealer and learned to love the real me is available at your local bookstore or one of these online sources:
hi pheobe, i just finished your book….loved it! i am 60 and wish i had had a friend like you when i was in my 30′s to help me navigate that difficult time…it sounds to me like the waters are even more treacherous for women now!….i am giving your book to my 30 yr. old daughter….she’ll love it! hooefully she has a pheobe in her life….great wisdom and insights!…thanks, julia
I just this second finished the book. It was a thought provoking exercise to read it. Although I have always fixed my hair and put on make up each workday, I never over did it. You actually mentioned my approach in the book. I try not to look too bad or too good. Just tolerable. Oh and I work with mostly guys. My “voice” has always talked to me about weight. At the age of 52, with my kids raised, I decided to fix my weight. I lost 30 pounds and now I feel like I’m who I’ve always wanted to be. Sad that 30 pounds could do that. To celebrate my weight loss, I spent $8000 on a tummy tuck in November 2011.
Two regrets. Why didn’t I lose the weight sooner? Why did I let 30 pounds bring me down all those years?
Good job and good luck with the book!
Thanks for sharing your story Sherry and for reading the book. It’s very interesting that some of The Beauty Experiment’s readers are those who have had similar dark spots in their lives and have found their own balance–sometimes much later. Your experience and optimism is inspiring!
Julia, thanks much for your optimism and kind words, and my hope is that we’ll all reach out to each other when we’re able. (And frankly, sometimes we’re not able, which is when we need the arms to catch us!) Best wishes.
Hi Phoebe! I have not read your book yet, but I can’t wait to start. It sounds like it would be a fascinating read. I am currently 20 years old, and being 20 a lot of my peers are make up obsessed. I’ve grown to enjoy it less and less over the years, and nowadays just see the process as a hassle. (Unless I absolutely have to wear it for special occasions) Thank you so much for writing this book and sharing your story!
Phoebe a lovely warm hearted book written from the soul. I am in my 70′s and could easily relate to the book as I have lived in the places you mention. I have always been tied up with glamour, clothes and make up. I couldn’t have done what you did.As makeup and fashion are still a big part of my life.How much more money we would have if we gave up the fancy clothes and expensive makeup. But I won’t. When you get to my age I wonder if you will be taken in by all the miracle cures that are about. I am. I realize in my heart of hearts this expensive goo i spread on my self will really not work but i still keep on doing it.Love your red dress.It is something I would have worn in my youth. Now i look for fashion but with stuff that hides all the sins.
Hi Connie, thank you for reading the book and for taking the time to share your thoughts. As an author who spends many hours alone working, it’s heartening to connect with readers around the world. And my red dress is more forgiving than you might imagine; I’m hoping it will take me into my stylish seventies, though perhaps remade as a shirt! Best wishes, Phoebe
It was very nice meeting you yesterday. I am looking forward to reading your book. I just ordered it from Barnes and Noble. I am spreading the word about you and your book.
Hi Holly, thank for braving the traffic and participating in the Inner Voice workshop! It was a pleasure to meet you. Best wishes,
Six months before your wonderful book came out, I started my own foray into going without makeup but didn’t keep notes. Thank you for doing so: you have channeled exactly what I’ve been feeling to the extent that I feel like I know you. I suspect I’m not alone. I am 60 and feeling invisible: women in this age range at some point became irrelevant in the eyes of most of society, no matter what they accomplished in the past (I was a journalist). Perhaps that will be your next book. All the best to you.
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